Written
by Jason Shields
Our
world has a miraculous way of reflecting back what we believe it to
be. However, all of the reflecting happens in your own mind. If you
assume that there is intrigue all over the company and that your
fellow coworkers are out to get your job, then that is exactly the
environment that you will experience. If you were to take on a spirit
of freedom and cooperation with others in your job environment, than
that kind of environment will likely form. The world is what you make
it and a positive attitude with a spirit of compassion toward
co-workers and your boss will improve your situation significantly.
However, Zen has an even better option: See the world, your job
environment, for what it is.
See it
for what it is? Are you serious Jason? Yes. Your world is what you
make it and there is an objective reality that you can see and
experience. Simply put: don't make the world into anything. Just
allow and be. Objective reality is right in front of your face, but
you tend to cover it up or dress it up in all kinds of disguises with
your own ideas of what it life should be or must be. Stop the
madness! Stop trying, stop striving, stop straining to alter your job
environment.
Think
about this for a moment: You are not responsible for “creating”
your world into something that works for you; you are only
responsible for getting out of the world's way. Step back and see
this world for what it is and you will find that your perception
greatly increases and sharpens into more clarity. Then you will truly
“see” how un-seeing you have been and how delusion has crept in
to the mind. You can then proclaim, “so this is how things truly
are! Wow!”
when
you refuse to force your job environment into a preconceived mold
that you have created in your mind, you open up to all kinds of new
possibilities. You may feel that you are finally seeing your work
environment for the first time. You will be able to see how just one
person can influence the entire job environment with a focused,
positive and nonjudgmental spirit. You can also see how another
person can be just as influential through negativity, pessimism, and
suspicion. You'll see both sides for once. People can influence on
another, but no one person can force others to be happy or productive
or content.
What
will happen if you decided to stop assuming the worst, or the best
for that matter, about your co-workers and supervisors/bosses?
Everyone will burst into focus as exactly who they are and doing
exactly what they do. Where will this leave you? With your own job to
do. Your job will still include daily interactions with people and
coworkers, but these interactions can be entirely free of
assumptions. You will be surprised at how easy these interactions
become, even with the “difficult” coworker or boss. Then you will
be able to understand that you are not responsible for that
particular comment that someone made. You do not have to becomes
incensed over your bosses botched handling of a particular job
situation. All you really have to do now is do your job to the best
of your ability and interact honestly and productively with others,
without feeling anger or resentment or even awe. Just be yourself and
allow others to be themselves. However, if they continue to assume
the worst about you, continue to make judgments regarding you or your
work, or holding a grudge, simply notice it. Notice it but don't
attach to it. Remember: You can't control what anyone else thinks or
does!
Do you
feel as though the “sharks” are swimming around your desk or
cubicle? Remember, those “sharks” are solely a product of your
mind and the assumptions it creates. It could be that they never had
an eye on your job at all! Maybe there is not a bull's eye painted on
your back! Maybe there is! It is important to remain detached in the
face of office politics and this is not an easy task. How many of you
go home and recreate scenes from what happened at the office? You may
remember an incident where your were “humiliated” or
“disrespected” or when you failed to obtain a certain goal by a
certain time frame. What do you do with these circling thoughts?
If you
are like most of us, you are more likely to continue to invent
further mental scenarios. What could you have done differently? If
only you had said this instead of that. What might others have said
about you? We visualize answering differently and behaving
differently. If only you could have foreseen the future! Maybe you
could have changed it? The “sharks” are circling indeed, but only
in your mind. Our problem is compounded further by the fact that we
also work with other “shark makers” who gossip and second guess
everyone and everything. Eventually, as a result, people form their
little clique groups and suspect that there is a conspiracy behind
every corner.
This
is such a waste of precious energy! Your livelihood depends on making
money and your job is critical in making that happen to a certain
extent. It is too easy to place too much emphasis into work. You
attach to your job, you make it so important that it causes you to
suffer. Even when we assume good things about people we can get into
trouble. What if, in reality, a coworker is trying to get you fired?
Blindly assuming that the entire work population is filled with sweet
and nice people all of the time can be naïve. Having an overly
positive approach to work is not any more realistic than imagining
that everyone is out to get you. You have to find an objective
balance: Zen.
Choose
not to assume at all. Take everything for what it is while being so
mindful that you don't miss anything. This is the best way to know
what is really happening in the workplace. You can then react
appropriately and be in the best position to stay uninvolved with the
things that go on in any work environment that squanders precious
life energy.
Do not
assume at all. Don't do it. When you catch yourself doing it,
however, recognize it, allow it, notice it, and then let the
assumption go. Go by what you know now, in the present moment, not
what you expect. Besides, shouldn't you be too busy doing your job as
to wasting all of that precious time? I am not suggesting that you
ignore your coworkers. You can still have productive or antagonistic
relationships with them. Some of them may be important players down
the road, others not so important. That's fine! Living Zen means
relating to the world that is full of people you do not own or
control. People are who they are and they will do what they do.
Accept it or suffer. The choice is yours.
Namaste